What to Expect: Your First Boudoir Session!

Boudoir is a type of photography that is shrouded in mystery. You don't really hear of people participating in it but you see photos everywhere. It’s a very personal experience and some people become a bit nervous to share it with someone they don't know well. With the world becoming more and more body positive boudoir is becoming increasingly popular. It’s time to shed some light on how to prepare for your boudoir session, and what to expect.

Being a woman I do have an advantage to male photographers. Women tend to be comfortable around women. It’s like a sisterhood, if you see someone who feels down about themselves, like they just aren't feeling it, what do we say? “Your fucking beautiful, and don't you dare say otherwise!”

(I just want to say that though I refer to boudoir in the since of a woman, anyone can be the subject of boudoir. It’s not just for ladies to feel sexy even though that is the usual demographic. If I have enough interest I’ll have to create a post about men’s boudoir sessions.)

The perk to boudoir is though you can do it as a gift to your husband or a little something for your partner, ultimately it’s for you. It’s for you to get to feel sexy and prove to yourself that you are beautiful no matter what body type you have. I got into boudoir because I wanted to help women see just how gorgeous they are. I know that every girl has that part of them that they just wish was better, whether it be your stomach, legs, nose, anything. It is you and you are beautiful.

Better than therapy right?

First off, make your appointment. Give your photographer a call and set up your session. Look up some photos that you're absolutely falling in love with, here's a Pinterest board if you need some examples. You’ll typically see the ladies in super sexy lingerie however you don't need it. A large t shirt and some boy shorts can be just as sexy. It’s all about who you are and what you feel comfortable in. Now that’s not to say don't step out of your bubble, but if you aren't comfortable in what you're wearing, it will show in the photos.

Some must haves:

• Boyshorts (maybe a thong)
• An over-sized shirt or jersey (his perhaps)
• Lipstick (red is a must)
• At least one cute bra (blacks cute, but color pops)
• More then one outfit to try out (variety is the spice)
• Fishnets or thigh highs (maybe a seam down the back)
• Jewelry (necklaces are always fun)
• Heels!!! (it's always sexier when that toes pointed)

During the photo shoot you will likely begin a bit nervous, and that’s okay. It’s expected even. That’s the great thing about having another woman there for support, it gets to feel like you’re just hanging out. That being said, don't bring your partner and be weary of bringing friends. These distractions can make a shoot take much longer and it can become hard to get the shot because of interruptions. Be aware she may need to move your foot over a bit or some hair into it’s correct spot. Touching is sometimes required, but again, if your uncomfortable say something. Some of the poses may feel strange but trust your photographer, she’ll make you look amazing! During editing I’ve had women ask for edits such as their stomach to be made flatter, or their arms to be slimmer. Personally I won't do these kinds of edits. Getting rid of a pesky pimple is one thing but I’m very pro natural bodies. I prefer to concentrate on the poses being taken at a flattering angle. Everyone is different and unique and I don't believe it’s my place to edit away ‘imperfections’ because we’re not perfect, and that is beautiful. Boudoir is an art form that will make you feel great about yourself. Everyone wants to feel sexy, step out of their bubble and be someone a bit different for a while. What better way then by taking off the mask and being yourself?